In our area we had a little less than a foot of snow on the ground over Easter weekend. What better way to celebrate than to go to the off leash dog park?
Apparently my dogs Emmie and Teddy and I weren’t the only ones who thought it would be fun. As we approached the gate we could see dogs of all shapes, sizes and ages whooping it up. Proud mamas and papas were having a good time also, watching their 4 leggeds make new friends and greet old ones, playing rough and tumble in the snow.
As so often happens, humans and dogs gathered in fluctuating groups. Towards the end of the trail, I found myself walking with another woman. We began to make small talk, chatting about the snow, the park, and of course, our dogs.
I asked her which dog was hers, and her reply was ‘He’s the stupid one up ahead’ and immediately began yelling and scolding her dog for frolicking with two other dogs – Emmie and Teddy.
I was taken aback by her manner of communicating with her dog: both her tone of voice and the word she chose to describe him. I wondered if this was a typical means of communication between them.
There’s always room for improvement when we are communicating with others – be they humans or animals. The way we talk, our tone of voice and the words we choose all play a big part in how clearly and respectfully we are communicating.
Conscious awareness of what we are saying is an essential tool in communication. Here are some questions to help you become more aware of what you’re saying:
- What is your tone of voice conveying?
- What is your body language conveying?
- Do you choose your words carefully? (Is the dog truly ‘stupid’ because he’s playing with a couple of friends?)
- Are there other words that are more accurate in what you are trying to convey?
- How often do you use the words ‘must’ or ‘should’? These words can be subtle forms of manipulation.
- Are you aware of your ‘knee-jerk’ reactions and responses to certain words or topics?
- Do you present your thoughts and opinions respectfully?
- Do you speak with your companion in the manner you would like to be spoken to?
Clear communication begins with each individual – not the other person. As you practice your articulation skills, I invite you to become aware of your speech habits and communication patterns. In doing this you will forge new lines of understanding and open new avenues of communication!
Harmony,
Janet Roper
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